Sexting and Cheating Red Flags
All of the Anthony Weiner press coverage makes me feel somewhat validated for having done this. I stand by it.
I don't as a general rule comment on current event news stories here, because I can't imagine anyone gives a rat's ass what I think about the news. However, the subsequent debate about whether or not sexting is cheating reminded me of the short, personal checklist I've amassed of potential red flags that the guy asking you out/hitting on you isn't as uninvolved as he claims to be*:
1. Only wants to see you during non-prime time hours, i.e. lunch but never dinner.
2. Gives you an email address and/or phone number just for you (you usually find this out when he calls/emails you from the other by accident).
3. Only wants to talk to you from work.
4. He has a cat and lives alone (so he says). (I have a bias that young, single men who want a four-legged pet get dogs, not cats. Also he turned out to be married so I was right.)
5. Only wants to see you far away from where he lives.
6. When you ask him if he has a girlfriend/wife, doesn't immediately say no or explain his situation.
7. He doesn't want people to know he knows you.
I have a theory that I attract men who aren't single (to various degrees) because I'm not very demanding and not interested in getting serious quickly (or at all). So if you need a list, you can borrow mine.
*I care if someone has made someone else think they are committed to them only. Casual dating is fine with me. But I don't like it when they aren't honest about being in an open relationship or are sneaking around behind someone's back.
I don't as a general rule comment on current event news stories here, because I can't imagine anyone gives a rat's ass what I think about the news. However, the subsequent debate about whether or not sexting is cheating reminded me of the short, personal checklist I've amassed of potential red flags that the guy asking you out/hitting on you isn't as uninvolved as he claims to be*:
1. Only wants to see you during non-prime time hours, i.e. lunch but never dinner.
2. Gives you an email address and/or phone number just for you (you usually find this out when he calls/emails you from the other by accident).
3. Only wants to talk to you from work.
4. He has a cat and lives alone (so he says). (I have a bias that young, single men who want a four-legged pet get dogs, not cats. Also he turned out to be married so I was right.)
5. Only wants to see you far away from where he lives.
6. When you ask him if he has a girlfriend/wife, doesn't immediately say no or explain his situation.
7. He doesn't want people to know he knows you.
I have a theory that I attract men who aren't single (to various degrees) because I'm not very demanding and not interested in getting serious quickly (or at all). So if you need a list, you can borrow mine.
*I care if someone has made someone else think they are committed to them only. Casual dating is fine with me. But I don't like it when they aren't honest about being in an open relationship or are sneaking around behind someone's back.
Comments
Hey I'm single and find you attractive, so there!
I don't think texting or sexting a lot is a sign of cheating at all. I'd rather text than talk, I'm not a phone person.
LL, ;) good call. Although know that I think of it, my two closest single gay friends both have dogs :D
Young guys with a cat?? Flaming RED FLAG!
Man, i was dumb (or innocent... or blind...) in my 20's and 30's.
*shakes head*
>two closest single gay friends both
>have dogs
So they're using dogs as their companion animal beards, less they appear to be either gay or married :D