Where The Good Men Have Gone
When a man* has done something bad, it's hard to reconcile how you could have trusted someone who turned out to be not trustworthy. Like, shouldn't my Spidey-sense have known this would happen? It's easy to blame yourself, when in reality, he chose to do this bad thing, you didn't make him do it. (It can take a long time to really believe this is true.) And then after you finally believe it, you still wonder: how do I know this won't happen again? How can I trust myself again when my judgment was so bad the last time?
And then you look around and realize: most men are pretty good. Some are even exceptional. Last night I was hanging out with some of my male friends here, and for the first time in a long time, I believed again the chances of running into another man like that last one are pretty slim. These guys? Are good guys. Not angels (thank heavens!), but respectful, decent, trustworthy people. And so are 99% of the men I've known in my life. So thank you, good men, for being good, for helping me see outside the shadow I've been living in, for helping me remember (and believe) you're out there. I'm glad I know where you are.
*This goes for women too, but I am writing from my perspective
And then you look around and realize: most men are pretty good. Some are even exceptional. Last night I was hanging out with some of my male friends here, and for the first time in a long time, I believed again the chances of running into another man like that last one are pretty slim. These guys? Are good guys. Not angels (thank heavens!), but respectful, decent, trustworthy people. And so are 99% of the men I've known in my life. So thank you, good men, for being good, for helping me see outside the shadow I've been living in, for helping me remember (and believe) you're out there. I'm glad I know where you are.
*This goes for women too, but I am writing from my perspective
Comments
I find that when you show integrity, most people (men and women) are likely to respect you and treat you well.
Great post!!
There are some great guys out there, you just have to weed through. ;)
On a serious note though, some of us are not good people. Others are dealing with their issues and hurt others in the process. A select few are mature and stable enough not to cause turmoil.
They just never seem to date me, that's all :)